4 Relationship Stress Reducers
Every relationship has the potential to be amazing, but they can also be stressful. Not every person is going to get along with their partner or their family all of the time, and that is normal – healthy, even. Arguments are going to happen and should be expected. How you respond to them and grow from them is what matters most in the end. If you want to figure out ways of avoiding stress in your relationships, whether it is to a spouse, parent, or a sibling, there are a few things you can proactively do. Here are four tips to help reduce the stress in your relationships so you can get even more out of them!
Make Sure You Go Into Each Relationship with Realistic Expectations
You should not go into a relationship with anyone expecting them to change. People are who they are. If they are a good fit with you, then that is amazing. Enjoy it! However, if you rub each other the wrong way, expect that. Plan for it and arrange around it. If you know that someone feels hurt when you show up unannounced, call first. It shows respect on top of making your relationship easier.
Actively Listen to Each Other
There is a difference between hearing what someone has to say, and actively listening to them. If you truly respect someone you have a relationship with, don’t just hear them. Listen to what they say. Stop being distracted and attentively listen to their words. Ask how their day was, then listen to their answer. Show you are listening by asking questions. They are important to you, so show them that!
You Know What They Say When You Assume…
Never assume anything about the people you have a relationship with. If you suspect something, communicate it with this person. Then, make sure you listen to his or her answer. You could easily be wrong about something, which could hurt both of you if you said it out loud. Instead, ask, and take them at their word. Assuming that everyone lies to you is never going to get you anywhere productive.
Try Not to Take Things So Personally
When someone says something awkwardly and it hurts your feelings, think before reacting. Does this person have a mean streak, or often go out of their way to hurt people, specifically you? If the answer is no, then they likely did not mean to in this instance, either. Don’t take it personally, and if you can, communicate with them about the way you feel. Hopefully, they will listen (actively) to your concerns and do their best to not repeat their error.
If you want to learn how to be a better active listener, then book a free consultation now. I would love to speak with you and help you learn how to actively listen to what those around you have to say. It can be a lot of fun, so why not give it a shot?